Wellness and Coaching.

Since 1990 we have this whole new wave called coaching. What it is and what it is not. The therapy world is taught to ‘know yourself” do you own mental health personal healing so you can in fact guide your psychotherapy client’s to their healing. That work means reviewing all the painful life moments that have made you you and moving then working through the scars we often call triggers.

Have you ever heard of a near miss? This is what I call it when we have a life event that does not meet our expectations, our needs, our soul is vexed or a small “t” trauma. That motor vehicle accident which does not cause flashbacks but is non-the less bruised us emotionally in some way. We have gotten through life but some element of how parents raised us did not fit the bill. We felt ignored, misaligned by others. Maybe your gifting as a person is being a caregiver, ultra thoughtful of others and it just is not returned to you. As we age this is a loss when no one returns the gift giving knack, the cards, the warmth, the caring words. There is no specific trauma but the loss is non-the less significant. It could be being a intuitive man in a place that is filled with stiff upper lip men who feel the need to pound their bodies when you would rather not go kill a deer or join the football team or frenzy. Too much noise? A man who knows his feelings can speak for self, corporations, states, nations. A person who can weep along side a broken person can be life changing. Since 2020, people need to be seen, witnessed. The challenge right now is how will you find what you are meant to do. In some faith communities it is “your calling’ and the bible says God fully equips who he calls to do a thing. It seems to come naturally when a person finds what they were created to do. It gives purpose meaning and there is not striving in it. It is still work to refine any skill. Find your voice, your calling, your meaning it is within you all along.

The world of coaching is something that can help with setting clear goals to help you work your now moments into the future for with you were destined to flourish. I think that we grow in confidence and wisdom as we abide in this space of knowing you have “arrived.” This is where the coaching world is really ment to grow us the iron sharpens iron area of life. If however, you have not already done the work of your past you will like the kids game chutes and ladders be sliding back to the beginning to revisit what is not healed. My advice is to dive in and trust your gut. You will know when a blast from the past occurs and you need to pause and work through a thing so you can keep moving forward as the resilience, thriving person you are ment to be.

I would love to be apart of this process for you!

I offer a free 15 minute consultation to help you begin your healing journey. Get the tune up you need. Don’t stay stuck.